I'm a 50 year old woman whose libido has fizzled out. I'm still very interested in sex, but seem to be stuck in neutral. I don't think it's anything other than time passing with too much to do and just taking a second to have sex. Should I start with your book or a video? -Cindy
Nearly every woman, at some time in her life, experiences low libido, especially as she ages and experiences menopause. There are a number of reasons that can contribute to low sexual desire, which is when a person has very little interest in and a desire for sex. The leading cause of lost sexual desire is the combination of stress and fatigue, which you're likely experiencing in having a busy schedule. The beauty in that, however, is that this condition is typically temporary, with a person's libido bouncing back after much needed rest or a stressful time period ends.
Other reasons for low libido include_
- Medications, including some oral contraceptives and antidepressants - Fluctuating hormone levels - Relationship issues, e.g., boredom or conflicts - Psychological problems, e.g., fear of intimacy or depression - Sexual abuse
In getting to the root of your problem, it would be best to work with your physician and a sex therapist or counselor. Know that treatment is dependent upon what's at the heart of this issue. While a sex book or video may not do the trick in helping you to bounce back, many are chalk-full of erotic ideas for spicing up your love life, keeping things new and hot, and encouraging a lover to make the time to get busy in the bedroom. Whether the reasons for your low libido are physiological or psychological in nature, it certainly wouldn't hurt to check out a good read or flick.
She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."