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Dear Yvonne, I'm really self-conscious about my butt. I know that half the battle of being comfortable with it in bed is working on my mental self. In the meantime, what sexual positions should I try to divert my partner's attention from my rear? -Rose

Dear Rose, Before answering this, I have to point out that most guys get off on seeing their lover's derriere - and love the jiggling effect that occurs as a result of his thrusting. That said, being on top is a great way for the lady to draw attention away from her buttocks. In most cases, a man's entire attention is devoted to her breasts when she's riding him. Being on top is always a favorite among ladies because it provides a great deal of clitoral stimulation and allows them to be much more orgasmic. Plus, many love being in control of not only the depth of penetration and the speed and angle of his penis, but find the power dynamic of being in charge exhilarating as well.

Dr. Yvonne KristAn Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of

Sexuality Source Inc.

She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."