Dear Yvonne, My girlfriend enjoys me giving oral sex, but has to shower before I pleasure her. How can I make her realize she doesn't have to shower? I understand her wanting to be as fresh as possible, but I don't mind. I even prefer that she not shower. Any suggestions? Thanks! -Rob
Dear Rob, Let your girlfriend know how much you love pleasuring her, and how much you like her in her "au natural" state. As you pleasure her, and then again during after play, express how much you enjoy her taste and smell - how much it turns you on, and more so than shower fresh. Given most females are raised with the idea that their genitals are "dirty," it may take a while to undo the damage that has been done. Positive reinforcement over time should, however, help your cause.
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