Actress Mayim Bialik opened up about her experience with a mother’s support group following the birth of her first child, revealing she left the meeting in tears.
Bialik posted a video on her Facebook page and YouTube channel recalling the stressful experience and asked her audience why mothers were so competitive.
Bialik said she attended the meeting following the birth of her son Miles, who is now 12, but felt out of place.
“When I was a new mom, 13 years ago, I went to a ‘mom’s group’ at a local retail store. I instantly felt out of place,” the “Big Bang Theory” actress recalled. “I used cloth diapers. I didn’t use pacifiers or bottles. I didn’t have fancy clothes and neither did my baby. I didn’t have a manicure. I mean, I barely had time to shower. How was I gonna have time to get a manicure?”
Bialik recalled the mothers asking the group’s moderator why their child wanted to be held so much and “how can I get a three-week-old baby to sleep through the night?”
The actress said the mothers were encouraged to boast about their quick labor and how their babies were “pooping, rolling over, sitting up, smiling.”
“Everything was a competition,” Bialik said. “These were not my people. I left in tears. Moms are so competitive! Why is that? Is it because we’re just catty and combative by nature? Is it because we’re bored and we have nothing better to do?”
The actress came up with a theory to explain what she went through.
“I think that competition comes about because we are the first generation of women who were raised after the revolutionary turmoil of the women’s movement and were the first generation who was constitutionally raised to believe that we can and should do it all,” Bialik explained.
The “Blossom” star concluded her message by asking women to find “more meaningful things to connect about as a society and especially as moms.”
"Let's get back to a model of camaraderie that reduces competition, fosters friendship and empathy and increases the success of a society that is built on the foundation principles of woman-to-woman support, which has sustained our species for so long, so well," Bialik concluded. "We can only do this together."