A concerned woman took to Reddit seeking advice after she learned her boyfriend was planning to propose to her with an engagement ring he had custom made for his ex-girlfriend.
The woman explained her boyfriend asked her if she would be OK with the second-hand ring, noting “it’s just been sitting in his cupboard.”
“He and his ex were together for about 4 years and he had planned to propose to her, however the proposal did not happen because the girl had broken his heart again and again and he finally had enough. Before that though, he had ordered a customized a ring from overseas for her. I’m not sure what the actual value of the ring was, but according to him he spent few thousand dollars on the ring in total. This was not even including the money spent flying to and fro,” she wrote in the post.
Though the woman claimed she could “see the practicality of it,” she confessed “something in my heart just can’t get over the fact that the ring was originally made for someone else in mind.”
“He assured me that she never wore it, but I just don’t want something that wasn’t made for me. Am I being unreasonable? I don’t need an expensive ring, and I don’t need diamonds, but I’d like the ring to be bought with me in mind,” she wrote.
Those on Reddit were quick to tell the bride-to-be that she was not being unreasonable.
“No girl! You’re not being unreasonable. Rings carry stories and history,” one person commented.
“I like to think of myself as a practical person who is also not superstitious, but HELLLL NOOO to the failed-past-relationship-bad-juju ring! I can empathize with your boyfriend on the ring being a total financial loss, but there are plenty of other practical and reasonably priced ring options that he could purchase for you with you in mind,” another wrote.
“For this ex: a customized ring that was so special he couldn't source it locally and flew overseas to get it. For you: an unused ring sitting around in the cupboard,” one wrote.
Many offered up practical advice, as well.
“As a jeweler, I'd say keep the diamond, and reset it. A diamond is a diamond, and the mounting should be just for you,” one person commented.
“I would ask him to have the stone reset into something customized for you. Obviously you won’t be happy with a ring customized for his ex,” another seconded.
The anonymous woman seemed pleased with the responses she received.
“Great idea. I love the idea of repurposing the stone into a different piece of jewelry as well!”