I have always had a healthy sex drive, but at least a couple of my lovers over the years, including my current one, have made the comment that I'm a nympho because I want sex more than they do. I would take it as a compliment if these guys weren't so negative about it. How do I respond to these comments? - Acacia
In the future, begin by asking your partner to define the term "nympho," and what it means to have "too much sex." Then explain that we are all different in our level of desire - and that there are times when one sexual partner is in the mood more often than the other. Highlight the fact that these sexual desire discrepancies are quite common, and should not be used to put down an individual. Let him know that you're offended, if that's the case.
Don't be afraid to tell your partner how this makes you feel, particularly when it comes to the judgment that's involved. Stress that you see nothing wrong with your sex drive, and that it's quite healthy. Unless one's sex drive is interfering with their daily routine, there is no problem with it. In fact, the issue seems to be your partner's discomfort in not being able to keep up with you - desire or otherwise.
Dr. Yvonne KristAn Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."