Men, let me let you in on a little secret before Valentine’s Day. Studies have shown that the more housework you do, the more likely you are to have sex with your spouse.
There is a direct correlation between the two. Why? There is less conflict and greater happiness in households where husbands help out with the housework. And I can tell you from personal experience that this is true. The reason is simple: It’s a matter of energy.
Most mornings I wake up fantasizing about my husband. By 1 p.m., my fantasies are colorful. But by the time 6 p.m. rolls around, I am so exhausted that the thought of romance is out the door and a good night sleep is what I’m fantasizing about, instead.
Women take on a lot. We have careers. We raise children. We do most of the household chores. And we handle everything else in-between. Even after we are in bed many of us will get up one more time, to do one more thing, so it doesn’t fall to the next day’s list. It’s not the same for men.
Most men will walk over their dirty socks for days, even weeks, before making an effort to pick them up. Nine out of 10 times the only reason they pick them up is because they don’t have any cleans one left to wear. It just doesn’t bother them the way it bothers us. They claim to be too tired to throw out the trash, but give them a hint of Amor and suddenly their energy is restored.
Nothing irks me more than seeing my spouse lean to one side to continue watching TV while I’m cleaning, and not offer to help when it’s quite obvious that I can use a hand. On those days, I want to take my broomstick and hit him. But on the days that he takes the initiative and starts cleaning - Im not talking about surface cleaning I’m talking really cleaning - on those days my love for him oozes. And when I see my husband folding cloth, not just his cloth, but mine included, my heart starts pumping. That’s love. And it's sexy.
In other words gentlemen, if you want a happier home and more sex, consider making the dishwasher your best friend all year long.
And of course, don’t forget the flowers and chocolate on Valentine’s Day!
Marlene Pratt is the co-founder of Casa Latina, an interior designer and on-air television host on both English and Spanish-language television. Follow Marlene on Twitter at @CasaLatinaToday and Like her FB page.