Sexpert Q&A: Yvonne, Do You Practice What You Preach?

Throughout everything you've talked about regarding sex ... have you actually experienced all of it? Vaitafa

Dear Vaitafa, I don't like to field too many questions about my personal life for two major reasons_ (1) it's private; and (2) as a sexuality resource, people often look to me to give them permission for their own sexual antics. In telling others what I've done or experienced, I run the risk of setting a standard for others. People need to sort through what's right for them given their own value systems and needs.

That said, like most other human beings, I have not experienced everything encompassed in the vast field of human sexuality. Not only would that be incredibly time consuming, it's unrealistic and unnecessary. Unlike other professional fields, people often have the expectation that "sexperts" need to have experienced something in order to be an expert on the sex-related matter. This is like saying that a clinical psychologist needs to have suffered from depression in order to treat a client. That's like saying that a vegan chef must be able to eat beef in order to comment on its nutritional value.

I am a professional who has been academically trained in human sexuality. Given we're all sexual beings, some of what I've learned has trickled into my personal life and vice versa. I can best serve others by giving them the facts, whether or not they can be complimented by personal anecdotes, helping them to decide what they want to experience for themselves.

Dr. Yvonne KristAn Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of

Sexuality Source Inc.

She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."