Sexpert Q&A: Sex on Autopilot

Dear Yvonne, Occasionally, my lover and I will have an entire hour or two for sex. We don't feel like making love, though, we feel as if we're on 'autopilot.' How can we keep things spicy and stay connected without feeling robotic or just going through the moves? - Jude

Dear Jude, What I'd recommend is taking a couples' yoga class together as a form of foreplay. This provides a different way of becoming intimate and getting to know your partner's body. Adjusting each other's bodies, getting pressed together at times, and seeing each other in a new light, while helping your bodies to unwind and feel good, can heighten the desire to make love. Exercise is often considered an aphrodisiac.

If this can't happen in an hour, you can practice your own yoga moves at home as a warm up to greater (spiritual) union. Such an interaction also helps to expand the idea of what sex is about and helps to make it an entire body experience instead of one with a "going through the moves" genital-focus.

Dr. Yvonne Kristin Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of

Sexuality Source Inc

. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."