Dear Yvonne, Given the state of the economy, I'm already planning ahead for Valentine's Day, and I want to take advantage of the after-Thanksgiving sales. I was wondering what I could get my girlfriend without breaking the bank. Any ideas would be really appreciated. -Lance
Dear Lance, While many advertisements would have you think that expensive gifts, like jewelry, are going to make you her prince for the day, lots of ladies are a bit easier - and easier on your wallet - to please. "Think of me" gifts, with a sexy/romantic note, are one way to win her over without putting yourself in debt. For example, get her a pretty sun catcher to hang in her window with a note stating that you hope she'll think of you every time she sees it. This will let her know that you want to be on her mind. Framing a picture of the two of you will give her a warm glow in reinforcing her confidence in the relationship. Get something that compliments what you love about her most. For example, if she has amazing locks, get her a pretty clip to pull up her hair, with presentation key, for example, let her know it has greater appeal in allowing you to better nibble on her neck.
If you want to go for something traditional, give the tried and true gifts, only with a spin. A bouquet of flowers can be professionally preserved so that she'll always have them around. Chocolates that are homemade from a gourmet store are going to be more appealing than ones from traditional candy makers.
Remember packaging is a way to make a so-so gift much more special. Just the right wrapping paper and bow - basically presentation - will go a long way and shows that you've put a lot of thought into the gift. That's what's going to be priceless come V-day. And if a woman ends up giving a guy a hard time because something isn't expensive or lavish enough, then you may want to rethink why you're involved with her. Nobody should have to be that hard to please. Dr. Yvonne KristAn Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of
She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."