Relax Much?

Dear Yvonne,

You often go after stress in your articles in achieving better sex.

What do you do personally to reduce stress? What's your biggest professional recommendation in having lovers reduce their stress levels?

-- Petra

Dear Petra, Personally... To stay sane and keep stress under control, I go for a swim every weekday that I can, hit the gym on weekends, plus try to catch a session of yoga weekly in addition to my own practice. I try to eat healthy foods - lots of fruits and few carbs. Allowing some downtime every now and then is important, with friends and family or by myself.

I also think that a person's body performs best when it has a routine - for example, having a regular bedtime, regular workout schedule and eating regularly scheduled meals. So I strive for that. I know that this is so hard to do for a lot of people, but it really helps. Also, doing things to avoid crowds can really help you to get things done faster, more efficiently, and with much less stress - for example, going grocery shopping early in the morning.

Professionally... I would push the power of touch more than anything. People need to be touched; people need affection on a regular basis. This could be something as simple as a hug to a roll in the hay with a special honey to an all out date with yourself. Touch not only provides pleasure, but comfort, reassurance, and support as well.

Dr. Yvonne KristAn Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."