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You can't quite put your finger on it, but your relationship feels troubled. In fact, things have become increasingly stressful and you're constantly fielding unresolved relationship problems... but you don't know why.You are starting to feel confused and distressed. Could it be that your partner has a pornography problem? What constitutes a porn addiction or compulsion is a hotly contested issue, which is why its symptoms are rarely discussed. This lack of discourse has come at a hefty price. Many people who have been victimized by their partner's porn problem wish that they had "seen the signs." They wish they had known what indicates an active habit and an actual problem. They wish they had been able to solve the puzzle before their lives fell apart. And they probably could have. So now we are going to discuss the warning signs. Many people are completely in the dark that their partner likes porn, much less has a serious relationship with it. Ignorant as to any issue, they trust their lover unconditionally. They assume their partner understands that using porn, at least beyond a magazine like Playboy, is the equivalent of having an actual affair. This ignorance, combined with the great lengths to which a porn enthusiast will go to hide erotica, can leave a partner in the dark for months or even years.