Men, imagine being rocked by the same luxury that many women enjoy: Multiple orgasms.
These days, thanks to ancient Eastern exercises, more and more men are learning they can experience multiple Os with a partner after weeks of discipline and practice.
So consider this your crash course to exploring multi-orgasmic potential ...
— Build your physical stamina.
If you aren’t already, dedicate yourself to strengthening your pelvic floor muscles. Like women, men can exercise their PC (pubbococcygeus) muscle for better sex and endurance.
— Boost your mental strength.
Concentration is crucial. OK, maybe it sounds weird, but during stimulation, calm your mind by counting to 100. Make each breath worth one count, and don’t let your mind wander.
— Become intimately familiar with your orgasmic response.
Be aware of how your body reacts when it’s sexually aroused. Become familiar with your sexual response cycle, focusing on what goes on during the "plateau phase," which is the third stage of the human sexual response cycle. It follows the desire and excitement phases and precedes orgasm.
The plateau phase is also called the contractile phase or the emissions phase, because it is at this time that the prostate contracts and empties semen into the urethra. At this point, every male must make a major decision: Do I keep doing what I’m doing and go for immediate gratification and emit semen? Or do I slow down a bit, postpone the ultimate pleasure, and attempt ending with multiple orgasms?
If you choose the former, then you’ll enter the third phase of sexual response called the expulsion or orgasm phase, where semen travels through the urethra and out the opening of the penis. But if you hold off, you’ll remain in the contractile phase, relishing a series of prostate contractions. Lasting three to five seconds, these pelvic orgasms may range from mild to intense.
After orgasm, the body enters the resolution phase, during which the muscles relax, blood pressure drops and the body slows from its excited state.
— Perform a balancing act.
If you expect to experience multiple orgasms, you must not give in to certain temptations – those amazing fluttering sensations. If you stay strong and hold your course in hopes of multiple O’s, then you still want to stay as close as possible to this ejaculatory inevitability – that point right before semen is emitted.
Sounds like a lot of work, right? You're not done yet.
To do the above, you must:
— Squeeze your pelvic floor muscles, focusing on those around the prostate.
— Apply pressure to your "million dollar point" while contracting your PC muscle. This point is the area on your perineum (the area between the anal opening and where your scrotal sac attaches to your body). This will help to control the reflexes that can push you over the edge, as well as force more blood to the penis for even more of a throbbing effect.
— Make a mental effort to draw energy away from your genitals and up your spine.
These seven steps will help you in your efforts:
1. Learn how to breathe properly while exercising your pelvic floor muscles. Holding your breath isn’t going to cut it. Practice belly breathing, taking a few deep breaths to relax your entire body and your arousal response. This will ultimately expand orgasmic sensations.
2. Stay positive, challenging thoughts that may have you doubt your abilities.
3. Practice visual imagery. This should involve you being in charge and in control of your sexual response: Be calm, cool and collected while thrusting (including when you’re slowing down and gradually increasing your pace), and reaching the point of inevitability -- and not letting go! It should also involve you imagining your partner’s warmth, wetness, grip... and -- no matter how excited you are -- you’re in charge, relaxed, and at ease.
4. Learn to adapt your state of arousal. Make changes in your behavior, even if it means simply stopping to maintain control.
5. Know what to do during a stop. While it may work to relax and enjoy your lovely, tingly feelings of decreased arousal, you need to be able to think or talk about non-arousing things that will help you to postpone orgasm.
6. Stop before you reach the contractile phase if you tend to lack control in general.
7. Consider using a condom for lasting longer if you don’t already use one.
You might want to read up on this subject, so try Mantak Chia’s “The Multi-Orgasmic Male,” which I think is a super resource.
Furthermore, make sure you’re patient with yourself. You may not always be successful, and that’s OK. Practice makes perfect, remember? So adopt the attitude of "try, try again."
As stated, this is a quick low-down on how a man can begin this ultimate sex journey for himself. This effort, however, takes a lot of time, energy, discipline and practice. It requires solo and partner exercises, with many men not seeing results for four to six weeks. Some men learn to do it on their own, naturally reacting to their body’s rhythms— but even they did not learn this overnight.
Likewise, men who are willing to commit themselves to this exploration have very patient, giving, understanding partners – lovers who are willing to temporarily put their pleasuring on a backburner for a greater cause.
But the hard work and long wait will be worth it.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."