That’s why one hubby-to-be decided — why even ask at all?
Edi Okoro, 30, had already bought a diamond ring for girlfriend Cally Read earlier this year, but still wanted to take it slow. Leaving it up to fate, the romancer from Herefordshire, in the UK, decided he would carry the ring with him wherever the couple went.
“I took the ring with me everywhere hoping the ‘moment’ would arise in line with my spontaneous style,” he wrote on Facebook, in a post that’s been shared 59,000 times so far.
“After a month or so of waiting for the right moment, I was sitting on the sofa admiring ‘my precious,’ ” he jokingly called the ring, “and it hit me! … I should just start documenting these moments!”
That’s when he began playfully snapping photos of the ring while Read was looking away or had her back turned. He knew she might catch his prank at any moment, but was confident she’d say yes once she caught him in the act.
“The idea was to take as many photos, in more daring scenarios, until I found the perfect moment to propose, or until I got caught, at which point I would propose!” he continued in the post from Aug. 26.
The update included a photo album titled “How I proposed to Cally,” which includes images of Okoro holding the ring just behind her at a store checkout counter, or hiding it in plain sight in her jewelry dish. A few times, he even rests the ring in her hands as she sleeps, and on her back as she fiddles on her iPhone while lying in bed — she, all the while, oblivious.
Not afraid to admit his weaknesses, he knew that Read would likely sniff out a more elaborate scheme, and decided this laissez-faire proposal would be the best way to catch his girlfriend off-guard.
He explained his non-proposal on Facebook.
“Those who have gone through this (and those who will soon find out), you want to propose in a way that speaks to you as a person and couple,” he said in the same post. “Some plan a flash mob, a fancy meal, or even arrange a marry me sign. I couldn’t do this because ‘Edi doesn’t plan,’ ” — as his girlfriend tells him. “I’m a spontaneous improviser.”
On Aug. 31, Okoro confirmed with a photo that he and Read were finally, officially engaged. He declined to share how he actually ended up sealing the deal — “a story for another time,” he says — but says he never did get caught and adds that his now-fiancée didn’t actually learn about his game until “several weeks later.”
He wrote, “My smile is a ‘you know nothing Cally Read,’ smile.”