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Dear Yvonne,

I want to tell my girlfriend that I love her, and I am debating if I should do so for the first time during love-making. Bad idea?

--Tim

Dear Tim, While saying "I love you" in bed is super romantic, don't do it for the first time during sex or after for that matter. Your girlfriend may have trouble hearing you or may wonder if it was the sex that made you say it. She may also be too caught up in her sexual response to enjoy it - satiate it - as much.

If anything, let your "I love you" be the aphrodisiac to initiate foreplay and love-making some time special.

Dr. Yvonne KristAn Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."