Dear Yvonne, My wife wants to get a little "kinky" in the bedroom, citing that we're a bit "vanilla" compared to what's out there. I don't see anything wrong with what we've been doing, but was wondering what you think. -Nolan
Dear Nolan, While many people find comfort in seeing themselves as "vanilla," pushing the envelope on occasion can do them a world of good, revitalizing their sex life and opening the door to new sensations and pleasures.
By challenging their sense of eroticism, especially in a trusting relationship, many people are delightfully surprised with their physical and emotional response to a new adventure. And if it isn't their cup of tea, then there's still a sense of accomplishment that they were willing to put themselves out there. By keeping passion alive and nurturing a monogamous, long-term relationship, most sex researchers will agree that what is considered novel can make or break a sexual relationship. So changing things up on occasion can only help you.
She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."