Society has always been obsessed with sex, however, with the onset of the digital age and the rise of social media, our culture has increasingly nursed an obsession with the isolation of sex from the rest of the person.
And according to the latest research, this is actually making us a lot less satisfied with sex.
A recent survey found more than 62 percent of woman aren’t happy with their sex lives and overall, people are having less sex today than ever before.
But a new series of studies may just provide the key to unlocking the ultimate sexual satisfaction.
Researchers Frédérick Philippe, Robert Vallerand and colleagues conducted a number of studies involving the concept known as “harmonious sexual passion,” or “passion for sex that is well integrated and in harmony with other aspects of the self, creating minimal conflict with other areas of life,” according to Scientific American.
People who have this harmonious sexual passion find it easy to integrate sex with other aspects and activities in their lives, allowing them to more fully enjoy sexual activity in a spontaneous and uninhibited manner.
They tend to have an absence of conflict in their relationships and have less sexually intrusive thoughts throughout the day.
The study also found those scoring high in harmonious sexual passion showed greater control over their sexual drive, and when they encountered a sexual stimulus such as a beautiful person they were able to remain on task.
In contrast, researchers found those who have “obsessive sexual passion” found it difficult to integrate their sexuality into other parts of their lives, and tended to think of sex as a goal, which can limit enjoyment.
The results showed that obsessive sexual passion was also linked to interest in alternative partners, violent reactions to romantic rejection and the disintegration of romantic relationships over time.
It’s important to note, however, that both harmonious and obsessive sexual passion are equally associated with sexual desire. Society tends to look down on people who have a more unrestricted “sociosexual” orientation, or those who are open to casual sex and report greater sexual desire.
The results showed it’s not “sociosexuality” that’s the issue, but it’s how this sexuality is integrated into one’s life that truly has an impact on sexual satisfaction.