Sex column: Six reasons why women fake orgasms

Many are even uncertain whether they have ever had an orgasm.


According to a survey by ABC News, more than 50 percent of women regularly fake their orgasms. Another study conducted by the Sex Files states that as many as 70 percent of all sexually active women have faked an orgasm at least once in their lives. Many women are even uncertain they have ever experienced an orgasm and plenty state they have never had one, despite having had various sex partners. What are some of the reasons why women chose to fake their orgasms?

1. They want to please their partner

Whether the woman was raised with the idea of “pleasing her partner” or she genuinely enjoys making her partner happy - or both - boosting his ego by applauding his sexual performance is a way for her to bring a smile to his face.

2. They want sex to be over soon

Sometimes women would engage in sexual activity to fulfill the sexual desires of their partners, not because they are necessarily in the mood. This leads to a disconnection between her wanting and sex. For women, orgasms have a lot to do with mental stage and ambiance, which are both affected if she’s not feeling the sexual desire.

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3. They’re shy

Culturally, women are not encouraged to express their sexual desires and many refrain from doing so in fear they would be labeled in a negative manner. Instead of asking or showing their partners what they want, they choose to pretend they’re sexually satisfied with whatever her partner is offering.

4. They don’t know their own bodies

For women who have not explored their own bodies and gained a significant understanding of their own sexuality, it is very possible that they are not even certain the level of pleasure they can achieve or even what an orgasm feels like.

5. They don’t feel enough connection

The large majority of women need to feel a real connection with their partner to fully explore her sexuality. There has to be a certain level of trust established for most women to feel relaxed and let herself enjoy sex more fully.

6. They have been doing it all along

The way movies and TV portrays sexuality delivers a very unrealistic image of what sex and orgasms are supposed to be like. Taking those examples as an starting point, it is possible for many women to assume that moaning and twisting are just part of the sexual act, whether they are feeling it or not.

Trilce Ortiz is a sexpert and love advisor. Follow her on twitter @trilceo.

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