Few think “orgasmic” when they look at a pregnant woman in all her budding — or bulging — belly beauty. Yet pregnancy is amongst the most sensual, sexual times in a woman’s life. Unbeknownst to most of us, pregnant women often top the list of the lustfully libidinous, with many expectant mums expressing increased sexual appetite and fervor, much to their partner’s delight or bewilderment, with every ripening day.
Consider, after all, what’s going on with the hot mama’s changing form. First, the hormones of her time with child are blessing her with better skin and hair, making her feel more gorgeous than ever.
While some women, especially the toilet-bound, feel anything but sexy during their pregnancy, many are literally glowing from their expectancy, and love their bodacious body as never before.
Second, whether it’s her first or second trimester, some women experience increased sexual urges, at levels exceeding pre-pregnancy. During the second trimester in particular, many feel hot to trot for reasons far beyond their control. The vulva seems to have a mind of its own. Mother Nature is revving up a pregnant woman’s sex drive with increased vaginal lubrication, larger breasts, and increased vasocongestion (the flow of blood to the genitals) for heightened vulval sensitivity and a swollen, often to the point of aching, clitoris. A woman is literally a hot mama passion playground for her — and her partner — to enjoy.
Third, during pregnancy, a woman’s dreams may increase and become more sexual in nature. Expectant women have reported more erotic, physical, and varied dreams during pregnancy, with a lighter sleep cycle making it easier to recall the visions and her subsequent nocturnal orgasm(s). Sharing her scintillating nightly visions with her partner can make for even more sizzling real-life action, with many couples fascinated, turned on, and even amused by the thoughts being conjured up during this time.
Given her sexual metamorphosis, all of these changes add up to a much more orgasmic woman! Between feeling sexier, increased genital blood flood, greater vulval sensitivity, and unexpected fantasies, many women experience their first orgasm or multiple orgasms during this time, spontaneously or while love making. This increased ability to reach climactic heights is why many couples work to put aside any discomfort they have with the idea of sex during pregnancy.
Many couples have also learned that sex is a way to stay renewed and connected both physically and emotionally during pregnancy. This is crucial given that research has found that while relationship satisfaction tends to increase slightly during pregnancy, with many couples feeling closer, mutual happiness tends to decrease post-birth, with sexual intimacy the most vulnerable area. Couples who remain intimate, in any of its forms, up through the third trimester, report reconnecting more easily post-partum.
With mother-to-be primed for better sex, many couples have some of their most intense lovemaking experiences during pregnancy, surfacing from the experience stronger than ever. Only Mother Nature could come up with such a perfect plan.
For more information on sex during pregnancy, check out Fulbright’s co-authored book, Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know.
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— To postpone or “put out” — either way, you could be in for passion problems. This is because when you lose your virginity appears to be tied to greater risk of developing sexual health problems later in life. A study published in the American Journal of Public Health indicates that adults who started having sex at a relatively young age were likelier to have certain risk factors for sexually transmitted infections, like having a high number of sexual partners and a history of sex under the influence of alcohol. Interestingly enough, both “early” and “late” sex starters were at an increased risk of sexual dysfunction.
— The knullborgarmarket badge is no more. Upset that its logo bore a striking resemblance to the Swedish Association for Sexual Education’s award for knowledge of all things sexual and sensual, the Swedish Swimming Association successfully forced the sex organization to forego its “bonkers badge” honor. Sink or sex, both groups appear to have handled matters swimmingly.
— Teen pregnancy prevention couldn’t have gotten a better poster child at a better time. With the national teen pregnancy rate up for the first time in 14 years, 16-year-old Jamie Lynn Spears, kid sister of the pop star Britney Spears, reportedly has a bun in the oven. If you don’t have a child, this makes for great gossip. If you’re the parent of an adolescent, you’ve just been given a teachable moment.
Instead of freaking out about these headlines, which your youth are hearing about none-the-less, use them to your advantage in having discussions with your teen or pre-teen about issues like the meaning of sexual intimacy, abstinence, safer sex, and the responsibilities of parenthood. Eighty-eight percent of 12- to 19-year-olds surveyed said it would be easier to postpone sexual activity if they were able to have more open, honest conversations with their parents. So you need to start talking. Just keep a few things in mind:
— First, avoid dictation. Teens want a conversation that is mutually respectful, especially as they move into having more of an adult relationship with you. Recall how you felt as a teen, longing for your own identity and independence, but still needing an adult’s support. Your approach to the conversation needs to be such that you’re sharing your feelings, values, and attitudes while listening to and learning about those of your teen.
— Second, don’t assume that your teenager is sexually experienced or inexperienced. Listen carefully to what your teen is asking or saying and respond to the question or statement, not to your fears and worries.
— Third, don’t underestimate your teen’s capabilities in weighing the advantages and disadvantages of situations. Your teen has values, many of them your own, and is quite capable of making mature, responsible decisions. This is especially true when armed with the facts and opportunity to think out loud with a supportive adult. You need to balance the message of responsibility, healthy decision making, values, and maturity in developing a positive, pleasurable, pregnancy-free relationship.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."