When it comes to relationships many men wander onto proverbial land mines. Going about their daily lives, they keep bad habits that they may not realize are destructive to their causes. No matter how innocent you think you are, if you’re keeping these bad habits there’s a good chance you’re turning your girl against you.
Although women are all different, there are certain things that indicate you’re not putting her first, whether you think you are or not.
Read on for a list of habits that she secretly — or not so secretly — hates.
1. You’re late
Punctuality is not the be-all and end-all of a good man. However, if you’re late all the time you’re certainly not winning any popularity contests with your main girl and this is surely a habit women hate. All emergencies aside, lateness indicates a lack of commitment to the plans you’ve made with one another. It also — whether intended or not — communicates a lack of respect and understanding for your date. If you’re a person who’s consistently late, know that your lady isn’t the only person your lateness is affecting.
It could also be jeopardizing your job or your relationships with friends and family. Instead of continuing with your tradition of being tardy, start planning your day so you know you can be on time.
2. You forget
You may think that "I forgot" stands as a perfectly good excuse in life. She doesn’t agree and forgetting is definitely a habit women hate. Forgetfulness is forgivable in small doses and when the outcome is not crucial. However, a consistent and ongoing habit of missing the finer points is going to wear on those around you, including your girlfriend. Generally speaking, we are all good at remembering the things that are important to us (Did you remember to pick up beer on the way home? Tell me you didn’t forget your Friday night poker game?).
When it comes to favors or dates we’re not all that excited about, our memory does us a disservice. This translates to her exactly how you might expect it would: that the things you’re forgetting (her birthday, that favor you promised, calling to make dinner reservations) seem not to matter to you at all. And if you keep it up, you may as well forget your girl because she’ll soon forget you.
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3. You omit things
Secrecy can sometimes save our butts in life, but it will almost surely get us into trouble too. You think if you don’t tell her about your little slip-ups and faux pas that she won’t find out and you’ll all be happier. Well, you’re wrong. What will happen if you continue to refrain from the truth is that she will inevitably find out and will be forever distrusting of everything you say.If you have a little skeleton in your closet, it’s much better to air it out. If you messed up, just admit it to her. If there’s some part of your past or present you wish she just wouldn’t find out, you’re better off just to buck up and let her in on it. Omitting the "little" details can quickly become a big thing if you let it.
4. You under-do it
When it comes to birthdays, holidays or even her grandparents’ 50th anniversary party, you should never under-do it as this is a habit women hate. If you come underdressed, unimpressed and without a gift, you are unprepared and under-doing it. Don't think that your presence is what counts most. Your enthusiasm is what counts. If it’s Valentine’s Day, don’t whine about how it’s not important. She knows that the fate of the world doesn't depend on a romantic evening. However, it’s important to her and if it’s important to her, it’s important. Do your bit.
Humoring one another is key to making things work between two people in a relationship. Think back on your last "major" sporting event. She may have pretended to care. She may have cooked for last years’ Super Bowl party. Does she buy a gift for your dog at Christmas even though she hates the hair he leaves on her carpet? Look back on your relationship and see what ways she’s accommodated the things that matter to you, and then return the favor.
5. You stare at other women
Women aren’t stupid. She knows you’re looking at women all the time. She knows you noticed the waitress, the bartender and the girl at the next table. What she doesn’t want is for you to embarrass her or undermine her own looks by making a scene of it. She doesn’t want to notice that you’re noticing. If you’re gawking at other women, commenting on them as you pass or missing conversations with your own date because you’re so distracted, then you’re not giving your girl the respect and admiration she deserves, and she knows it. Women have this thing with comparing themselves to other women, and it’s a zero-sum game.
If you're complimenting another girl’s derriere, your date will assume that you mean it’s better than hers. This will make her feel less and less attractive with each comment until she wishes she’d just stayed home — and maybe next time she will.
Break the Habit
These things all add up to one thing: If you're giving less than your full effort to your date, she’s likely noticed and is unimpressed. These bad habits all indicate your lack of commitment and care in making her feel good. As such, they’re all on your women’s most hated habits list.