The Secret To Maintaining Your Sanity During Stressful Times

Anyone reading this might need to be reminded, as I have to remind myself when I look back on it, that there are only 365 days in a year. But shockingly enough, in one year's time I, single mom of two boys (SLEEPLESS STRESS), moved twice (GARAGE SALE STRESS), planned my wedding (CHICKEN OR BEEF STRESS) got married (SHARED BATHROOM STRESS), got pregnant (STRETCH MARK STRESS), was told the baby either wouldn't make it (HORRIFIC STRESS) or would be born without arms and legs (UNSPEAKABLE STRESS), had rounds of what turned out to be unnecessary Rhogam shots (NEEDLESS NEEDLE STRESS), coped with my new husband's lay-off (DOWN SIZED STRESS), worried about my extended family caught in Hurricane Katrina (LONG DISTANCE STRESS), was laid off from my high-tech job of 12 years (SEVERANCE STRESS), and turned 40 (SENIOR MOMENT STRESS).

I should mention too that I was trapped the whole time in family court negotiating custody and child support with my ex-husband (STRESS, STRESS AND MORE STRESS).

Good times! But this is truly a life gives you lemons story with a lemonade ending.

During that crazy year the secret to my sanity was realizing that while I couldn't always control what was causing my stress, I could control how I dealt with it. I was completely honest with people about what was happening. Pretending otherwise would have made it worse. Also, believe it or not, there were days when I just had to laugh. Taking things as they come is the only way to go, because no one ever knows what's in store from one minute to the next. It's like a rousing rollercoaster ride — frightening at times but memorable and fun.

The baby, our beautiful son Cash, turned out to be fine, but was delivered by C-section. This inspired me to launch Czela Bellies CesareanWear to provide super-soft, comfy undies to women who have recently undergone a C-section. I created the company in less than a year — 300 or so days that were practically a walk in the park compared to my life up to that point.

It's great that at 43 I'm running my own business which is what I wanted to do when I was 9. I was determined when I was stressed out and worrying about my baby that I would try my best to be there for him and not take a moment of his life for granted. What a journey this has been to be able to work with him at my side as I get this business launched. Having a toddler as my Vice President of Inspiration makes me a very lucky gal indeed.

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