Published November 06, 2008
When it comes to hot spots on the male body, believe it or not, the prostate reigns supreme. Yet how can this pleasure zone — the size of a chestnut — be all that when it’s so out of reach?
While prostate play may not be everyone’s cup of tea, this may be an area worth exploring. Men who have dared to go digging for this piece of gold will tell you they’ve truly found heaven. So, solo or with a partner, how do you embark upon this treasure hunt?
Before we get started, it’s important to note that, whether or not a man’s prostate is stimulated during sex, it is earning its title as the “male G-spot.” That’s because every male orgasm begins with his prostate.
As a man becomes sexually aroused, the prostate begins to swell with fluid, sending pleasurable sensations throughout his loins. These moan-worthy reactions get more and more intense, pulsating throughout a man’s loins as he approaches orgasm.
Therefore, imagine what it’s like when you actually toy with this hot spot ... Some men say it makes for the best orgasm of their lives. While some men report simply increased pleasure, others report a more massive, intense, more powerful, pulsating, total-body orgasm.
These prostate-triggered climaxes can happen with or without your typical orgasm and are described as more “full-bodied” and longer-lasting.
Not surprisingly, the prostate is also regarded as a means to exploring his multi-orgasmic potential. Plus, simultaneously stimulating the prostate along with another hot spot allows men to experience a “blended” orgasm, as many women do with their own hot spots, bettering his chances for multiple orgasms.
As if those aren’t selling points enough, consider, too, that the prostate stimulation has been given kudos for helping him last longer in bed!
To go for the gold, what can a man or his lover do?
Know what you’re looking for. The prostate is a firm, partly muscular, partly glandular body found wrapped around the urethra, below the urinary bladder.
Realize that almost any time is a good time. Unless a man isn’t in the mood or prefers to be turned on first, the prostate is always up for action. While this erogenous zone comes alive when a male becomes sexually excited, it can also send amazing sensations sans erection and other stimulation. It is best, however, for a man to be already aroused before you go “probing,” lest he’s likelier to experience pain or discomfort.
Discuss the preferred method of stimulation. The quickest and easiest way to access the prostate involves going to a place where more than just the sun doesn’t shine. Many men … as well as women … may be opposed to this. There are external ways to stimulate this organ, but you’ll have to experiment, making communication key.
Explore different positions. The prostate is best stimulated when a man is in a position that allows stimulation of the entire erogenous area. The best positions involve a man kneeling, squatting, on all fours, laying on his side or stomach, or laying down on his back with his knees bent (feet flat on the floor or knees pulled up to his chest).
Try a sex toy. There are plenty of sexual enhancement products, including vibrators, which are designed specifically for prostate stimulation. Allowing one of these gadgets to do the bulk of the work for you often adds to the fun. And these toys certainly make your job a whole lot easier.
Know that prostate play isn’t for everyone. A person’s discomfort with this type of sex play can override pleasures, neither of which does anybody any good. Some men, too, don’t enjoy prostate stimulation at all, while others really don’t think that much about it. Everyone is different when it comes to their hot spots and sexual preferences. So take your time exploring this G-spot. If you’re with a partner, communicate what feels good and what doesn’t.
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."