Have you found it?

Whether it’s your own or your partner’s, many lovers have found themselves in hot pursuit of the Holy Grail of hot spots – the G spot.

Yet recent research indicates that some may be wasting their time, reigniting the ‘is it real or myth’ debate.

The G spot got its name from Dr. Ernest Grafenberg, who first mentioned the term in 1950; but this erogenous zone did not become a part of public consciousness until 1982.

That was the year “The G Spot & Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality” was published, written by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John Perry.

Why all the fuss?

Because of the G spot orgasm. Also referred to as a “vaginal,” “internal,” or “uterine” orgasm, this type of climax involves the whole uterus, vaginal, and pelvic region. When coaxed, the G spot activates one of the most powerful nerves in the body, the pelvic nerve. This nerve is also connected to the uterus, urethra, bladder, pubococcygeus muscle and uterine muscles, giving new meaning to the “Big O.”

Thus, an effectively stimulated G spot not only rocks a woman’s body, but her entire world. This intense orgasm is known to build slowly, working its way to a boiling point of bliss. When it finally explodes, many women have described it as a deeper, more emotional and longer-lasting climactic high. Compare this to the clitoral orgasm, which is often described as concentrated and quick, and you start to realize why the G spot orgasm is so coveted.

Ask any woman who has found her G spot and she will tell you that this hot spot does indeed exist – that it is an actual, responsive area of a female’s physiology.

Amazingly, however, some experts still disregard the G spot. They feel the evidence is too weak to support the reality of such a spot. One thinker went so far as to refer to it as “a sort of gynecological UFO: much searched for, much discussed, but unverified by objective means.”

So it’s no wonder that a study published in the International Society for Sexual Medicine has been causing quite a stir. Research from the University of L’Aquila in Italy indicates that clear anatomical differences exist between women who have had vaginal orgasms versus those who have not.

Gynecological ultrasounds of 20 women showed that the tissue between the urethra and vagina was thicker in those reporting G spot orgasm. Despite the study’s limitations, researchers are holding that it is now possible to rapidly and inexpensively determine whether or not a woman has a G spot. Their logic: if there’s no visible evidence of a G spot, then a woman cannot have a vaginal orgasm.

The results of this preliminary research are inconclusive and require much more investigation. Plus, the study itself is being criticized as sloppy: For example, its limited assessment of participants’ reported experience of vaginal orgasm.

Add to this other data researchers have ignored, and you see how everyone’s making a mountain out of a molehill. The results of another preliminary ultrasound study out of France found that the act of thrusting may be what causes a vaginal orgasm. If this is so, the bulk of the wall doesn’t matter, which makes the Italian research moot.

Despite the Italian study’s questionable importance, the research has been making headlines around the world thanks to New Scientist. The publication sensationalized the findings, making extravagant and unsupportable claims that caught on like wildfire.

It ignored fundamental problems with the study, telling people, instead, that they can now easily find out “if it’s time to give up the hunt, or if your partner just needs to try harder.” The travesty: many couples are giving up their G spot quest prematurely. Many just need to know what they’re looking for where and how to find it.

Perhaps the G spot debate is best settled in simply recognizing that — regardless of “proof” — not every woman’s G spot is an erogenous zone.

To put this thought into perspective, consider that many people don’t have sensitive nipples and never experience a nipple-induced orgasm. Likewise, some men don’t get anything out of prostate play and will never realize a prostate-induced orgasm. It’s all highly individual. We can’t help how we’re made.

I wish that I could sugarcoat the situation, as a male colleague of mine recently did when he wrote, “At the end of the day, an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm...”

That’s easy to say if you’ve never had a female orgasm. I can tell you that there is nothing like the G spot orgasm, as there is nothing like the blended orgasm (climax due to stimulation of the clitoris and G spot). The key to sexual satisfaction is not in worrying about which hot spots you don’t have, but learning how to fire up the ones you do!

In the Know, Sex News…

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—Sex education in a madarsa. A non-governmental organization, teaching reproductive and sexual health to teen girls in India’s underdeveloped Bihar district, is getting noticed. According to the Hindustan Times, women’s empowerment has been a goal of Project Sajivini, raising awareness around issues like the hazards of early childbirth. The message is slowly catching on, with girls postponing the age of marriage.

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Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc . She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."