Dear Friends of "FOX & Friends,"
Last week, I mentioned that to mark the upcoming publication of my first book, “The Mr. and Mrs. Happy Handbook” (a very funny owners manual for your marriage) I've asked viewers to send me stories of their secrets to a happy marriage. Since then, I have been buried under a pile of e-mail and let me tell you something: The stories are funny, they're honest, they're heartwarming. These are not professional writers, these are just viewers who are writing from the heart. You’ll read their stories in a few paragraphs.
Next Monday I’ll also start a daily blog that will feature as many of your stories as I can, so stay tuned for that. Also, if you’d like to learn how to submit YOUR story to me, or if you want to pre-order an autographed copy of my book, "The Mr. and Mrs. Happy Handbook," ("It's now the top wedding gift on my list" writes The Washington Times newspaper), please visit: www.happyhandbook.com
In the meantime, here are five stories about what it takes to have a good marriage — actually, they're not just regular stories, they're love stories and for them trusting me with them, I thank all of you who wrote.
E-mail No. 1
The secret to our happy marriage is the devotion to one another that we share. Eleven years ago I was killed for some seven minutes in an accident, which left me severely disabled and dependent on my wife. She has been there every minute since then assisting in my recovery. I was unable to walk, write, or read due to total amnesia. I am now completing my college education again, and will graduate with a degree in history to support her. She has truly been a soldier.
We are, as you may extrapolate, devoted to one another. We made VOWS! The secret to a HAPPY marriage is simply this, keep the marriage you vowed to keep every day. Think of the things you promised to do.
Mr. and Mrs. Eugene and Genie Webber
E-mail No. 2
The secret to our happy marriage is because of the advice that my husband received from his father just before our wedding in 1963 at the age of 20 — 43 years ago. The secret to a good marriage is in two words: "Yes, dear." I believe he was right.
I don't want to win your contest because I want to keep my husband's name a secret because he is perfect in every way and he feels the same about me and a really good man is so hard to find.
Just call me,
E-mail No. 3
It's 1964 and I'm sitting on a bench in the small town of Marcellus, New York. I see a cute blonde, five feet, blue eyes and about one hundred pounds. I check her out and ask her name. She ignored me. I heard her ask her friend, "Who is that creep?"
About an hour later, at my house I run into her again. She asks her friend, "Why is HE here?" Her friend answers, "He lives here, he's my brother."
We have been married 40 years this Christmas Eve. Our love has flowered all this time. Her name is Cheryl. We find ways to keep happy. A day never went by that I didn't tell her I loved her. Even while I was in Viet Nam for 18 months, I wrote her every day and my closing line was "Love always and forever."
Never argue about money, never go to bed man. If you had an argument before and it was over, don't ever bring it up again. One sweetheart rose says more than a dozen.
E-mail No. 4
The secret to our happy marriage is the way my husband suddenly sings to me in his falsetto voice, the way he puts the dishes away after I've cooked a delicious dinner (and he's had a long, stressful day at work), the way he remembers my birthday and our anniversary with flowers, the way he surprises me with tickets to dinner and a play, the way my husband does the laundry MOST of the TIME (WOW!), the way he comes up behind me while I'm cooking and hugs me affectionately, the way he helps me with my photography business so that I can be successful, but most of all the secret to our happy marriage is the way my husband prays for me every morning when we get together to read a devotional and worship God together. He never misses a morning, he looks forward to it. And so do I.
Julie and Larry Legg
Kansas City, MO
E-mail No. 5
The secret to our happy marriage is: Don't give recycled gifts. Here's our story:
Erwin was in dental school when we first married and money was tight. I had just gotten a new job as a director of Christian Education in a local church. For his first Valentine's Day gift, my husband presented me with a box. Inside was a beautiful Cross Pen set. Although it wasn't the most romantic gift I'd ever received, I was happy to receive it knowing of course that the money spent was extravagant given our circumstances. Imagine my chagrin when upon closing the box a card fell out. It read "To Erwin... Love Karen"! He had given me a gift he'd received from a high school girlfriend! Needless to say, I had roses the next day and I've never received a Cross Pen set again!
Thanks for the opportunity to share this valuable advice!
Thanks to all of our letter writers, if you'd like to send me your secret to a happy marriage, please do, go to www.happyhandbook for more details.
Take care, and we'll see you in the morning.
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