Your Grrrs: July 25, 2006

So, I hate to break the news, but this is my last "Your Grrs." Interning for Mike this summer and being able to read your responses has been an amazing experience. I will miss reading your everyday Grrrs and opinions. Have a great rest of the summer. Here are the responses to Mike's last column regarding celebrity marriages... Katherine Sands

Caitlin K. writes: I couldn't have said it better myself. Celebrities go through "relationships" the way other people go through paper towels. Marriage is a combination of compromise and willingness to put the other person's needs ahead of your own. These celebrities are too selfish and self-absorbed to realize that, and then are surprised when their marriage fails. There are several Hollywood marriages that do last, however you don't see them demanding spotlight. There is often three sides to a failed marriage — his side, her side and the truth — however, in Hollywood, the truth is too often played out in the media, where it doesn't belong. I agree there should be a ban on multiple celebrity marriages, but I don't see that coming anytime soon — magazine sales would drop.

Michael Bloodgood in Kirkland, Wash., writes: I am glad somebody put into writing what we've all been observing about celebrities, their marriages and hypocritical lifestyles. Why is our culture so enamored with celebrities? The majority of their personal lives are in shambles. Why do people want to emulate these losers? Thanks for a great commentary.

Jarinny writes: Your article was ridiculous. There are plenty of well-established marriages in Hollywood, you're just too cynical to see that. Perhaps it's men in general that are the problem, ever think of that?

Ann in Divorce Limbo writes: Hey Mike, a lot of non-celebs also make a mockery of marriage. Just ask my cheating soon-to-be-ex husband.

Jenny E. writes: Hi, Mike, love your column and your attitude, but I think that you are wrong on this one. Christie was the victim in this scenario. I haven't seen that she went public. From what I understand, you don't have to go public for there to be a media feeing frenzy. I do feel sorry for her. This gorgeous woman can't seem to hold on to a man. There is no help for us common women. Thanks.

Kandy in Eugene, Ore., writes: Hallelujah, someone finally gets it. Why do we continue to glamorize these celebrities' lifestyles? We all should know by now that they are some of the unhappiest people on the earth. Most of the time I pity them, but yes, most of the time I pity their children who are now prone to live the lives of their parents. Let's hope and pray they make it out alive and come to find a real purpose in life besides ruining the lives of those around them.

Ellen in Nebraska writes: My advice is if you are that famous and that rich, just forget the marriage and live together. Look at Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, or Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins. Both couples have been together many years with no "divorce card" hanging over their heads. I think it makes them work harder at working out their problems instead of just throwing everything out the window. I do feel sorry for Christie Brinkley. I think she got blindsided by her jerk of a husband and no amount of money can protect anyone from that. I hope he gets all he deserves, including an immature 19-year-old girlfriend who will dump him down the road when he gets a little older. Thanks.

DJ in Pennsylvania writes: This is the first time I have read one of your articles, but it will not be the last. Kudos for telling it like it is. These people whom you so accurately describe should be held to a higher standard and rarely meet that plateau. They set such a poor example for our impressionable youth and young adults and who are they but, in reality, people who get in front of a camera and act? When you think about it, how important are these people? What do they truly contribute to society other than poor examples of behavior? They have become, as many pro sports figures have, people who do what they do just for the money and not the love of the profession. You have touched upon aspects of their behavior that I hadn't even considered before. I am very impressed with your candor and the nerve to express it in print. Keep on keepin' on!

Joel in Austin, Texas, writes: My Grrr is to all these people who keep talking about how young people have no manners and are rude and so on ... while I do believe that there is a huge lack of manners in today's society, I must argue that it is a lead by example type of thing. I have great manners and am always polite and say "yes, ma'am" and "yes, sir," I also know that all my friends do as well. The reason for this is because this is what we have been taught growing up and this is how we have seen our own parents treat their elders. All I can say is don't hate on my generation because there are still a lot of us out there who really do try to be polite and show respect for each other and to other people.

Randal I. writes: Having just recently started to ride the bus to work because of the gas prices, waiting at the bus stop has revealed to me the "Mother of all Grrrs" — smokers littering the ground with cigarette butts. Is the world just one big ashtray to a smoker? Grrr!

Annmarie in Jacksonville, Fla., writes: Does anyone else find in ironic that since all the tabloids refused to buy pictures of Suri (because no one really cares), that all of a sudden all you see is "Suri Pics: Nowhere to Be Found." I guess Tom and Katie's pouting about the lack of interest in their baby paid off. Now they are in the headlines for not showing her. The media played right into their hands.

Glen B. in Eglin AFB, Fla., writes: Want to know what Grrrs me? We see the United States Marines saving Americans in Lebanon, going back and forth into a war zone. In the next couple days they will probably be shot at or injured by bombings. Yet these same Americans and millions like them will bad mouth the military in a second. Have you heard the saying "Don't talk about farmers with food in your mouth?" Well here's another for you: "Don't talk bad about the military when your a— is in a war zone."

Dan in Los Osos, Calif., writes: Mike, My Grrr goes out to all — that is all — the American tourists in Lebanon who needed evacuating. Some complained the U.S. didn't move fast enough and were whining "Katrina! Katrina!" And I don't really care whether they complained or were grateful. "Oh, I'm going on a vacation. Let's see, how about Hawaii? No? Tahiti? No. I know: the Middle Freaking East!" Make 'em sign a waiver at the airport and let 'em take their chances on their own. Sorry, kids. Don't waste my tax dollars evacuating morons from somewhere they shouldn't be in the first place. And don't give me this: "Lebanon is a beautiful tourist destination; they were cleaning up their country and trying to get off the ground" bull. Hello? Apparently not. They harbor terrorists. Wake up!

Keith Ott in Norfolk, Va., writes: Mike, great column (even if you do get hyper-sensitive once in a while). I'm Grrring on any American stuck in Lebanon complaining about the U.S. evacuation process. You had 6 million "safe" tourist locations in the world to choose from, and your student visa did not specify that you must go to a hostile area. You chose to go to a country in strife, in a volatile area. Your tickets and/or student visas aren't stamped "Rescue guaranteed by the U.S." You assumed the risk by going, and were I in charge, you'd be reimbursing the price of being rescued (except of course those in diplomatic positions). More effort and sacrifice went into your rescue than you seem willing to give credit for. Do me a favor: Next time go to Virginia Beach or Daytona.

Patrick A. Nymon in San Diego, Calif., writes: Hi Mike, I've got a Grrr I haven't seen addressed before: Why is it that "tacky" is the style norm, now? It's no longer any surprise to see some high school kid with his boxer shorts hiked up past his navel and his pants halfway down his butt crack. But when was it ever OK to see woman's bras or their straps? Every summer, I can always count on seeing countless women wearing some top that has straps of dental floss diameter with bra straps five times WIDER than the top's straps. Not only that, quite often, the color of the bra doesn't even match the color of the top which, quite often, makes the bra stand out that much more prominently … if we MUST see your bra straps, ladies, puh-leeze try and make sure it more or less matches the color of the top you're wearing. That way, you won't have to shoot dirty looks in my direction when I happen to notice your hot pink colored bra straps looking like a neon sign underneath your black spaghetti strap top. Yuck! This "style" reminds me of the tackiness of the '60s when it was common-place to see women running errands with curlers in their hair and/or cold cream all over their faces.

Bryan D. in Milwaukie, Ore.: Hello Mike, Grrr! To the newer voice mail systems that add a grocery list of system prompts after the person's personal voice mail greetings. Whatever happened to simply leaving the message after the beep or tone? I should not have to torture my callers with excessive prompts after a simple personal greeting if I should be on another call, or cannot answer a call on the cell phone because I'm driving, eating in a restaurant, shopping, talking face-to-face with friends, out of cellular signal range or simply just a dead battery in the cell phone.

Bryn Rich in Charleston, Ill., writes: One of things that has been driving me crazy after being in a couple of airports over the past few weeks is all of the jerks walking around with their iPods in their ears blaring. I don't know why they can't just walk with their luggage like normal people, and then sit down and read a magazine. I'm 17 and everyone does it in the hallways of the high school, so if you want to talk to someone, you have to grab their shoulder or something to get their attention so you don't start talking to them and look like an idiot. Not that anyone would hear you anyway.

Stacey in North Carolina writes: Mike, I am in the same boat as you. Everything drives me to Grrr lately. I have told myself that I need to lighten up and just let things go, but it is so hard when you are surrounded by Obliviot co-workers, oblivious drivers, inconsiderate people and pathetic customer service at every single place you enter or call. I wake up every Monday morning and tell myself I am going to turn over a "new leaf" with a certain irritating co-worker who's simple but fake "Good Morning" can drive my blood pressure into the red zone. I walk in the door and that "new leaf" shrivels and dies as I cross the threshold and I have to grit my teeth for the next eight hours. I think that we, as logical people, get the raw end of the deal in life because we see the travesty of society today and can do very little to control it. It is the lack of caring that gets flaunted for everyone to see in every aspect of life. Poor work ethic, no morals, no self-respect and no common courtesy to name a few. So Mike, good luck with your Grrr addiction, it is going to be a tough habit to break. Trust me.

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