TREAT IT LIKE A JOB HUNT
You don’t need to put on a suit, and the interview process should be a lot more enjoyable,
The quest for online love is a lot like the quest for the right job (though hopefully more enjoyable)! Your online profile should read like a perfect resume, allowing you to make a stellar first impression. And just like a real job hunt, the greater effort you make, the better the potential results. Browsing many profiles, writing interesting members, and going out on dates will increase your chances of finding love. In any competitive market, the more you differentiate yourself, the more likely you are to rise to the top.
If your username is ‘John123,’ you describe yourself as ‘smart, kind, and funny,’ and profess your love for ‘movies, music and travel’ and are looking for ‘a best friend,’ you will not stand out! Make every effort to make sure your profile distinguishes you from the crowd. A little thought and creativity goes a long way.
HONESTY IS EVERYTHING
Because the intention of your profile is to interest other singles, the temptation is to describe yourself in the most flattering light possible, even to play fast and loose with the facts: add a couple inches, shave a couple pounds, cut a couple years. But that’s short-term thinking, because the moment you meet, the truth emerges – your real height, your real weight, your real age. Just accentuate the positive, so your many attractive qualities overshadow any numbers you wish were lower or higher. Why start off a promising relationship with dishonesty? You wouldn’t want your date to do that.
FOLLOW THE GOLDEN RULE
Thousands of couples have fallen in love and married via the Internet, with more success stories happening every day. But dating, like life, is influenced by luck and timing. Some folks have just left a relationship, some folks are not ready to get serious, others are overwhelmed with dating options. You cannot know what’s going on in the world of a virtual stranger, so give them the benefit of the doubt. Even if he/she unceremoniously drops out of your life, do yourself a favor and conduct yourself with the utmost class at all times. Good karma will come back to you in future relationships.
PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE
How many times in your life have you been in love? How often do you meet someone in “real life” whom you think you could marry? Probably not as often as you’d like. Remember, that while online personals open the door to more opportunities than ever before, unconditional love is still rare. Just as you should take a long-term view if you had to lose 30 pounds at the gym, don’t put too much pressure on yourself to fall in love within the next month. Dating, by nature, is a trial and error process. But if you stick with it, you’re bound to find what you’re looking for.
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