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" I am Dr. Manny today were discussing the sensitive topic of sex. Now for some -- stuff to talk about it but as you'll discover one key to a healthy relationship is a healthy sex life. So prepare itself for some hot questions and some hot and it's wild. After document."

" Hello welcome to last document. People have been doing it since the dawn of time I'm talking of course about falling in love intimacy and yes sex. And in our first segment take a look at that not so perfect love life of a very loving married couple. Prepared 200 am prepared to blush."

" Sex is great for awhile and we XX a laden and I think -- and it's certainly did it click three times in one night rain."

" He says so. With genuine smiles and a little blush and their cheeks mark and Lisa Bowman reminisce about the routine rules in the hate that they once enjoyed. But a lot has changed the first laid eyes on each other twelve years ago. They married two years after meeting and then five years down the road along came their daughter Serena. -- on the ground on this. You yeah. Well like an answer worthy cause and a dog and more addiction to challenging careers. And the result says. The -- too busy to get busy. Okay held on for you go where Atlanta."

" You'll really. A typical day of work from seven -- four pretty much nonstop this time in years the longest work and then my daughter will wake me up at some point now make breakfast for -- make breakfast for her. And then I get her ready for school get her dress that whole routine. In the column I China aid to touch base to you today and we can clever thing McCain thinks I."

" Bull market release are self employed. She is a freelance writer and he runs a small business. And that makes their lives anything but 9257. Guys. -- spends his days that is cycling and coffee shop in business he started from the ground up. And as the wheels of their lives spun their sex life became flat."

" After crane was foreign our marriage just fell apart about self employed. And I was amassed all those factors together also you know I wouldn't. We're certainly a roadblock to us having much time together and I just slowly went insane. And that's -- and should have so. After she is -- honestly I don't know if we had sex at all for months one days Lisa came home with an ultimatum and -- on answer. And as a kind of scale of one -- champion's room being. Can but it Simon pets and if we don't do anything we're gonna get a divorce and have an affair I'm gonna kill you."

" Marge and Lisa decided to reinvest in their marriage she read a slew of self help books and even started blogging. But to really fix their problems they needed to have more sex. One way they did that is by putting sacks on the schedule. Sex therapist doctor Ian Curtis says that's not a bad person that."

" So couples who scheduled -- I applaud because they're taken responsibility for their sex lives and their prioritizing it. However doctor Curtis says that planning so called new owners. It is just the tip of the iceberg scheduling -- once a week or whatever you're doing it it's not enough. On its own. You need to be connected. To every day there have been a lot of studies that show that on. Non sexual intimacy outside the bedroom is actually what fuels a great intimate committed relationships."

" While not everyone is comfortable talking about what goes on behind closed doors and between the sheets market at least -- are more than willing to express their desires."

" Lisa is particularly -- and Clinton the problem mark's funky in experiments on. Mark finally G spot -- well for us. In America products have a sport -- Believe me -- note."

" It's actor that. We have -- some different things that she's on the areas searching at all man pulls up a vote on the plus side if."

" in the two years since mark and the Lisa confronted her problems. They have come a long way. But they're both still."

" Yearning for more I want it let's give them more passionate like. I just want the you know I think I want the grading in the past. Oh honey I can't wait until lately I can work that may be some minutes I I don't know maybe maybe it doesn't happen."

" Even if it doesn't -- get a -- are willing to take the time to find out. They have several appointments with -- in hopes of -- their love lives and -- discovering the passion they started out with."

" He like kind of feel like marriages about connection and it's about Saxon and is only about that but it's that's a part of it it's an ingredient it's sort of like. Having Mexican food without the spice and it you think its first."

" While. We're joined now by a Lisa and mark Bowman first I wanna commend you both for having the courage to talk about this so openly. And millions of people complain of the same thing you do it and hopefully with your willingness this is really an issue that people can talk about so kudos to you both. And thank you for -- for doing this story. And also I like to welcome. With us today sex therapist doctor Ian -- thank you thank -- for being with -- while. I'm blushed a little but I and I that doesn't -- it that doesn't take a lot of lead to blood but that -- all of those -- very good story. And it's it's an important issue this whole issue of improving your sex. Health. So I'm dying to know dying to know. People wanna I wanna know how have things changed since this whole thing began. I mean that in to receive the frequency."

" EU. -- to give me a little inside track here what's going on."

" You missed it suffers. Phenomenal change and the day after we met with Ian. Was our new Saturday and done has there was an animal was so the passion and have a -- is back."

" Back -- you -- the question is back yes."

" and again that it does it take away that this you know because you know you one of the things that you did mention. As one of the tips is that you kind of make a little appointment with the -- the right so at noon time -- in the afternoon she kind of keep a schedule. Does that interfere with the let's say the spontaneity of the moment I mean because you've got to get the you know the juices flowing so you think."

" that probably Europe before it was such a busy schedules we didn't schedule then detonated a lot harder than some things and and getting in the way that's easy to put it off. And now that we've really consciously tried to make sure that we tried to have more spontaneity in more -- China. Stick to art in our schedule once a week Toobin and try to have a lot more to that and so so -- Morse."

" No absolute moron idiot -- friend -- variety okay back burner. How common is this problem. It's super coming in there as recently study from the national institute of health that showed that. Nearly 90%. Of couples after having a child in the first five years experience ED decline in relationship satisfaction. So this is widespread. Especially amongst. Especially amongst people have children out young just since satisfaction so it it. It's about the relationship -- the overall relationship."

" Okay satisfaction in the relationship. But has so far as they there'd be a problem that we should I guess was is very common for a lot of married couples -- to many many years with the -- and everything else. And kids can get on the way of your passion sometimes inadvertently of course. But it is is. Do you see that as one of the chronic problems that it happens to people the longer they get married then the more difficult they have in achieving that. They have sex life that they asked thought was like oh my god this is like the best things is widespread in."

" I'm not trying to be the guy with the statistic but nearly fifty million Americans right now identify themselves as being in sacks right. So to me that's pretty widespread. That's pretty epidemic and sex riots he gets sex -- and I can tell you how many times I've met with couples just like elites and mark what's it. It's impossible. Our schedules just don't allow it there's no way we can do it while I think that this couple is a testament to the fact that you can find time you can do it so I applaud. That new -- because from there. Becomes 24 hours."

" He he gave is some homework. Because you know -- get people -- you know we've got to give some advice he -- some home works. Against you -- to do. Some of them I guess included instructional video role playing things like that took me a little bit about that again too much T tell who is -- G rated show. But tell me a little bit about that."

" In sinister game plan which is interestingly right around the corner from arraignments. And he primarily want to just look for erotica. And Sweden and books and stuff to read. Random I didn't find much with that but my husband found instructional video and then the rest of it was sort of like being at the zoo like wow this is just and and I'm want going to too many details run -- for that spent -- definitely interesting things sold there. We watched the video and I have to say you know we even after we've been together so many years you think you've done everything haven't -- kind of -- things -- so."

" It does he even sexual techniques and you can use sexual techniques that that became. Interest -- people."

" We'll move that thing I guess I'd forgotten as everybody can use refresher once in awhile -- us. But you you know you get stuck in a run of always doing the same thing and then you know it's certainly not that you haven't may be. Didn't know about it and maybe you haven't incorporated in your repertoire instantly and you know -- you know there's nothing like looking at fault football term on his recipes -- comfortable --"

" They came to New York firm ID day with -- and -- are one of them to have some fun afterwards -- sent them out on. Tennis sex mission. Now now what went one of the things that would you know when you talk about sex it's not only the physical part of it is also the emotional part yeah so how do you -- Kendall. That emotional part because you know you're having this end of physical sex okay I get that. And the erotic complacent to that and maybe the some of the videos but you know. Who presses in the piece that we showed you saw that you know that a free bowl guard and I don't kiss. That everybody is and that's the motion. Yeah so how do you so if you're in a -- already. You can get angry because yeah rut. You know hot white you know because you can't -- to point B which is having to actually to Korea the romance has --"

" Kind of hybrid can I do that you can set your sights pretty high with the -- Hollywood movies but. You know in the end what happens outside the real bedroom does affect what happens in Sacramento I think one of the keys especially for parents. Is being non sexual physical intimacy that can happen between couples because really. When you have kids that I know I have two of them the kids end up getting so much of that physical affection. They're the ones that get hugged they're the ones that get talked too they're the ones that get. -- and you know you gotta take some of that away it sounds really selfish but you do have to take a little bit about -- hopefully there's room for everyone. But redirect some of it towards your partner in -- studies have shown. That if you hug your partner. For just twenty seconds especially women. It releases oxy Towson which is the cargo hormone and so that's a very simple powerful way outside of the bedroom a 22 hug to start getting connect. Right so give me a couple more tips as we know one end this segment with some specific tips on how you can. First identify the problem which you said it you know people need to talk about a so the couple has come together and say listen we are in a rut. Look we've got to try to fix it -- but now things like. Hug a -- even non sexual physical intimacy the hugging the holding hands the staring into each other's eyes if you're especially here in Iraq with your partner that's a really easy. Incremental step another thing that's really important. And and this is not sexual this is about communication. You know against studies have shown that the difference between marriages that work and -- is often the ability to communicate in a positive manner and when you're not having sex. And you're in Iraq you stopped communicating in a positive way and everything starts to become negative and anger. Angry and present -- and I have a little tip I caught a five to one zone for every negative interaction with your partner. Trying counter that with five positive interactions and and they can't go around. Counting all day you go crazy. You can into -- are we in how we heavily in the positive and we just sort of in the positive or are we really in the negative so positive communication. Getting into the five to ones down."

" Right well very very good and finally there's two of the U. How has this changed your life. I mean I know the end she would tell me again. Are sex life has certainly. Upped itself a number not just or -- that by the ten that night ten. Nine and a half nine. A fool Op Ed. Do you think that this exercise and then of course all the help deduct current has given you is going to keep people worked. So that if you fall into a -- let's -- another thing is from now you say oh recognize the symptoms would do something about it."

" Definitely I think it sent us that it's a problem that we can solve it's not just this. Amorphous chemistry thing that can you can't do anything about then that we can't work on our technique we can work on romance could work done. How will we do to get me in the mood at night and goes first it was amazing how fast we solve those problems just by making it a priority to me."

" Oh Lisa thank you for sharing your story mark. Back to Kerner and knowing we have a lot of carriage is easier for some people but from others is a little bit difficulty coming eat -- cold shower after this -- but I think is important I think is gonna help a lot of folks identify the problems and hopefully. With your tips people are gonna get the help they need so thank you'll for coming. And coming up -- led to get you into the mood. But first through emails I'm not surprised we got some doozies."

" Welcome back -- document. We ask for your emails on sacks and we receive some open and honest missions many came from people between the ages of forty and seventy. And touched on a similar topic. Now for instance Dave wrote -- concern that after more than thirty years of marriage. His wife simply isn't as interested in sex as he hits. They -- loved and he finds her attractive but she's not interested in sex more than once a month. Okay Dave well you know we just had a whole segment would doctor Kerner and basically. One of the things that he said is that for a lot of couples you could be in -- sex -- And this is when you have this association between the partners. Their love -- doesn't really have any fire so you're getting at for the fundamentals however being a doctor and not a sex therapy. Therapy as the first -- sailors have your wife get a physical let's a lot of you know there's a lot of medical conditions like diabetes and thyroid problems on her hormonal imbalances that can really put. On take the flame out of the fire of sex but having said that if everything is healthy and in your life. Then would get back to the fundamentals. You know sex therapy self help books rekindled that romance. Utilized the tips that doctor -- in the program which is to -- You know you know hold each other's non you know and a daily basis hold hands. And get some ideas on how to put a little extra oomph in your bed. At night and I think that if you start discussing this with your wife. You know she might come to the understanding that this is something that is necessary. For you to have a good relationship so those -- the tips that I have for you. All we have another email 65 year old francs issue. Was plenty of desire but well he signed his email -- so all you know. He's willing but he's having difficulty I guess. Fulfilling his desires so. This is. I guess goes into the theme of a rec tile dysfunction. Which is a big medical problem. Because for the most part erectile dysfunction and is a vascular issue. For a lot of men in their forties and fifties even sixties and so on. When you get into cardiovascular disease high cholesterol. Type two diabetes. On those things interfere with the profusion of blood and remember in order for a man to get an erection you have to pump blog. Blood in an out of the penis so when you have that kind of lack of profusion secondary to a medical disease. That's when you get a -- dysfunction there other things of course. But the first things we need to get it a physical check for things like diabetes high blood pressure cardiovascular disease and many times he you correct those things bingo. You got the problem solved. Now. Once you get into that -- You can then talk to your. And primary care doctor wrote to you -- colleges because perhaps you can now. Take some medications that have been prescribed for erectile dysfunction. Thanks again to all of you who wrote in to Dr. Manny and foxnews.com. We can't get to every email on the show. But be certain we value hearing from you and some answers can be found at fox whose health dot com so look around at -- in the meantime. Doctors and Arabs who -- joins us Macs so that you can check out the latest pets."

" Welcome back left back and join me as always is not this -- covert. And she's going to help us make sense of all the latest medical news. Back to --"

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" Line. That we gonna talk about this one is. Not exactly studied that there isn't it Paul. That shows that men spent an average of 43 minutes a day. Look at that women staring at girls. You know I think that the numbers too low I mean 43 minutes. We would lose guys who -- going to LeBron is spent hours. On a daily basis I'm looking girls or three minutes for a few minutes -- like that that's not even a full movie. What do you think true false."

" Why not I mean this and you know bad that I 43 minutes is low fat from my house about a bailout. -- important they've -- you forgive -- Balls -- do you think that the car that's right 42 minute I hear a minute can't you keep you know you will get a couple glossy though it's. So so it is so this but this is not really a study like is that this is really a poll that's come out that says that on average men look at -- a -- day. Which accounts about 43 minutes a day. Which is basically up to one -- there -- man's entire life. And women it's actually happen that it's -- let's see one year of my life I have spent look at that women yes. Think you could have done that one there would have lost a lot of the this is a good you know this is an instant. That -- but and the bottom line is that basically both sexes appreciated. Men of course appreciate it more than -- But one other and sync things that they set in this study is that one out of ten people's -- actually ended because the partner had a roping high. So -- out there both were men and women the right for both men okay so so be aware. So what's the end of the Atlantic is -- and we are wearing sunglasses. Can't Kevin we surmise that it's is it health."

" For us I mean is isn't that you don't mean maybe that's. God's way of you know kind of keeping our -- clear you know you kind of wonder and you look you know this. Guess they're looking at her I'm looking at you -- come back to my notes maybe that's a physiologically wake up our minds unwinding a little bit."

" Right I think it's just an aberration. A way of eight -- and me when you see somebody who happens to be. An attractive looking person or that they've put themselves together very well you know it's just I think it's a natural instinct to admire. Beauty years and and it is always in the eyes of holders but I think it's a natural natural tendencies. -- the same -- out that --"

" Well I think as -- she's things okay. And it's helping we will continue doing so guys you know -- facing apartment that's mine okay. Today as a new study that says American made American men and make the best husbands. We see that again and there's a new study that says that American men. Make the best husbands."

" business Newsday that came out it came up from the United Kingdom. And basically they've hold. Thirteen thousand men and women over twelve different countries there was a global. Study. And basically the biggest determining factor was that men ranked the highest and why that they rank the -- American men. And marry American men ranked the highest and why may why because they help around the house. And I commit to this firstly because I grew up in the South African household and that you know what I'm talking about and I ended up marrying an American man who. The house around the house."

" But it but let me in the cool cool classify it that it knows who said that they make the best husband's was that women. Or was it based on the fact that. The divorce rates or satisfaction survey Andre Brown what makes him we know what what's most satisfying thing for wouldn't. -- great you know was was -- the WB asked women. And the husband goes around doing all the house work him thrown in the garbage every day Indian go boy like you want some debate. She's gonna say cool. He makes a great husband a -- but if he's not that. Involved in that whole house hole. You know. Shtick here. Then she may say no he's who is a lousy husband is that they got the garbage in a weekly be on the daily basis and the whole thing. I don't know I just fine American men. You know it's a little bit I mean I issue you know I don't know -- on on on the stand if it's an -- going picking up the garbage shouldn't leave out."

" Well the number one satisfaction. -- the rates of our factor I guess an Internet that in women liking men that or -- their husbands it was that was the biggest factor was that they helped around the house."

" These are not a salient what is the thing by the way I can't tell. Us that even a whole different but yeah I got the call shall about facts. Yes well so maybe it is about sex about sort of the about it I don't study graphic -- I'll get back. Back back back to the topic is gonna study this is once say that whether it. Women who drink two glasses of wine a day. Have better sex then non drinkers. All through fools."

" Actually this study it was done Italy not surprising yeah. I love the low. No probable that it right and at the university study and they left that. 800 women. And -- and bait and evaluated there sexual index factor. Which basically comes down to measuring their factors arousal stimulation satisfaction and -- And an orgasm. And they and they can -- what there's what their factories and and give them a score and basically women that drink two glasses of wine a night at a higher score than women who had drank one they drank one glass of wine. And they of course court and a woman who attack. No lineup -- and had nothing to -- so doesn't make sense I think it makes sense solely because I think alcohol makes it look at last this inhibit its I think you're gonna have."

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" Let's not forget red -- also has the benefit how the full capital -- and that anti idol Wednesday cardiac. Nor does tell you got exactly exactly yeah the you know again."

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" You know we also if -- that red line. Or are -- an associate with factors such as breast cancer and other so I I think you know. -- glasses of wine want to -- drinks tonight and I've -- of red wine tonight is probably gonna be fine in -- of health benefits to it. I don't think you wanna go overboard and certainly don't ever want it can down drinking as a way of enjoying your sex life because then things can get really out of hand and you don't that."

" Who passed the past two Alou walked me up so you've got to you have the two glasses why are you having good sex. Who wouldn't want that life I that'll come I think Italians eight now they know I don't that's why they are great economist -- Stayed in the bedroom for a last headline. Increase in Viagra. Use may cause relationship. -- you know people take one partnered takes Viagra the other one is not happy that he was -- when actually he. Takes Viagra what --"

" But -- the study that came out of Harvard school of medicine they've basically. It evaluated. Why. -- some satisfaction and in Viagra use and it basically came down to the fact that men who use these medications for erectile dysfunction. Don't. I always tell their partner that they're taking these medications that night got somebody -- sort of used to not having a very big. Her husband. So all of a sudden turns into there so the husband is taking Viagra but not telling his wife that he. Maybe cheating with medication back but he -- and things going down the toilet -- so that they do not quite prepared for there that strident newfound sexual interests -- and -- this. And so then they end up looking for outside. Means and the women or amend that and then -- yes to satisfy their new sectional. Big yet so the bottom line is is that you know just communication art communications I was in a relationship shape I talked about it earlier. And you know this is the key to it because you once you partners know that this is what you're doing if you get together can actually enhance your marriage --"

" Do you think that eventually if they found that type of Viagra like pill for women. That you don't men would be the one that would sort of would be bringing it to the bedrooms is he I took my bad for you take your. I think they can read it and then I get two free will not go why couples that say. But I've written a Viagra pill whereas she does take it. -- Spiking the Red Line with those guys are always looking for something I'm well thank you. Thank you -- or bringing a little common common sense into our lives if you see a headline. Or read a story that leaves you confuse. Send it our way again our email is not -- many of foxnews.com. Coming up -- sweet and goes well with sweets and chocolate and Sachs is this week's. Plus one."

" Welcome back. We -- as always -- many plus one and today we take a look at the long association of love passion sex and -- For an inside track at which suites will make the mood just right we've visited my friend -- Leone this topic right here in New York City. Where once again I fell in love."

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" You with a mushroom. -- I'm coming home some troubles tonight. Can't you see the love in my eyes okay this is not a licensed to go out and need as much chocolate as you want to but certainly don't feel so guilty about it either. Quality dark chocolate is good. It's sexy they can get the romance going plus it's got -- annoyance and antioxidants which are good for you and your heart. Love them. Is one of life's greatest gifts finding that perfect someone and enjoying the magic intimacy of sex is truly wonderful but it is an easy. Like so much in our lives love at a healthy sex life requires effort understanding communication and trust. And that doesn't stop at 51020. Or even fifty years into a relationship. I hate to cheapen it with an analogy but think about it like -- car or floral garden without the right attention efforts and time it risk falling apart. As a result of neglect so Warrick I'd love build the passion and great sex will follow. As always --"

" I got our website Fox News -- dot com for more. On today's top counsel for now thank you so much for joining us I'm Dr. Manny until next time well still -- document. I love -- you might be a little bit help."