Dear Dr. Yvonne, I am having an issue - basically a foot fetish - where I have a desire to give a sexy lady a foot rub and suck her toe in a building urge to do oral on her. Unfortunately, my wife's feet sometimes smell and they're in rough shape, for example, she has calluses. I love my wife with all my heart and soul and do not want to ruin our marriage - nor do I know how to tell her of both my issues - and hers. - Horace
Dear Horace, Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy and enjoyable sex life. As such, be it via letter, counselor or face-to-face, it's time you let your wife in on your secret fetish for feet. Perhaps she is simply unaware that you have an interest, thus she doesn't dote on her feet as she should. Chances are that if you reveal your secret yearnings as you did in this letter, your wife might treat herself to a pedicure. Better yet, you should treat her to one.
Other ways of taking care of the foot issues... incorporate a footbath as part of foreplay. Take to the shower or bath before you play footsie. Basically, use any mean you can to clean her up before indulging. She's likely to love this type of worship. Alternatively, you could come clean in telling her she needs to clean up a little bit. It's hard to deliver this kind of tip without offending, but if you can frame it as better for her ultimate pleasuring and good, she may listen. Let her know that you want her and long to be more intimate with her, but that you've noticed this smell. While she may be upset, many people would rather know they have an issue than be in the dark about it.
The fabric of marriage and adult relationships is honesty and exposure. Fear is a natural part of revealing and becoming vulnerable, and a necessary component of intimacy, which we all know enhances sexual and sensual enjoyment for both sexes. Give your wife a chance, and set your foot fetish free!
Dr. Yvonne Kristin Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc
Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."