College Advice Series Part III: Dealing with Friends
You have your high school friends and you have your college friends. Balancing the two can be a challenge. There are friends who have known you for years and friends who have known you only for a few months. Balancing the friendships and getting everyone to get along can be difficult, but beneficial in the end.
College is the time to mature, figure out who you are and what you want to do for the rest of your life. Friends come in and out of your life; it's a completely natural thing to experience. As your college career progresses, you may realize some old friends are taking different paths in life.
While it's normal to want to hang on to these relationships, sometimes it isn't worth the stress. Things change in college; people grow and find new directions to go. Some of these may be heading in a different direction than you. Losing a friendship may have nothing to do with you, so be confident within your relationships.
Five years down the road, a relationship can be rekindled. If a friendship isn't working or is too much work, put it on the back burner and focus on the friendships that do work. With that said, don't burn down all the bridges between you and the friend. You never know who you may be living next to or working with in years to come.
There is nothing better than going to college with your best friend. Sometimes things change, and the friend you had at the beginning of college grows into a different person. You met at a young age, making your interests then maybe not what they are currently. It's hard to incorporate them in your life because you are making new friends, many who have the same major as you. There are many things in college life that can pull you and your friend in different directions.
A friendship should not only surround you with happiness, but also make you want to be a better person. If the friendship involves drama or a lot of stress, you may want to think about ways to fix it. If it's beyond control, put the friendship on hold until you both become comfortable in college.
On the flipside, many people have no problem balancing the old with the new. Often times they graduate with friends from college, as well as high school.
It's just nice to be prepared and forewarned about college experiences. No one person can write the perfect handbook as everyone's college experience is different.